Ask Bubbi Advice Column - Monday May 18th 2009

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by Ask Bubbi
on Monday, May 18, 2009

Dear Bubbi,

I am crazy about this guy and think that he may be THE ONE but he has the most overbearing Mother. He's 27 and she still insists on coming over and cleaning his apartment, doing his laundry and cooking him enough food to last a month. How can I tell him nicely that he needs to let go of the apron strings.

~In Love With A Mama's Boy

Dear In Love With A Momma's Boy,

Why would your boyfriend kvetch (complain) about his darling mother shlepping (dragging herself) to his house, cleaning his toilets and filling up his refrigerator? He's got a great thing going. My question to you...If you move in and/or marry this man, will you be expected to take over Mama's chores or is he going to share the workload? If not...You might want to keep Mama around and go enjoy your free time at a spa!

Dear Bubbi,

So, compared to most of the world, this is a good problem, but I need some advice. I have 1 full time, and 2 part-time jobs, and I'm in a (distance) graduate program. I'm also involved in a really cool potential start-up business. All of my jobs are interesting, rewarding, and helpful. And I really love school, but I'm going a little nuts here Bubbi! I've forgotten some important details lately, and sometimes, especially if I'm hungry, I'm a little short with my very patient boyfriend. Any tips for a good Jewish girl who's in a little over her head?

~Drowning in Details

Dear Drowning in Details,

When I read your question, I was so exhausted... I had to go take a nap. Then my Bubbi vibes kicked in..."This little bubbala (darling) is so hungry, I should run right over with a noodle kugel and a few blintzes. Advice from Bubbi...You live each day to the fullest but you're running on overload and it's taking its toll. Stop and smell the flowers and share a hearty meal with your beloved. Take time out of your exciting and hectic life to nourish your tummy and your soul!

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John Belleme - Monday, May 18, 2009 @ 12:57:47 pm

Dear Bubbi,

I agree, Miss Drowning in Details, needs quit school and pay more attention to her "very patient boyfriend." I happen to know that he is a very nice guy. Yes less time with the books and more time with hubby in the hot tub is just what the Dr ordered. Why do I have to do a complicated math problem every time I want to say something on the website? It gives me a headache!

Later Mere Gluten

Sylvia - Monday, May 18, 2009 @ 1:39:33 pm

Dear Bubbi,
I completely agree with Mr. Belleme (a.k.a V. Gluten). That girl needs to quit at least one job, chuck her books in the hot tub, and jump on in after 'em. Geez, what kind of person operates in overdrive like that all time?

Sylvia - Monday, May 18, 2009 @ 1:42:21 pm

P.S Why doesn't she just quit all that stuff and let that so 'patient boyfriend' take care of everything?

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