Ask Bubbi Advice Column - Monday July 13th 2009

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by Ask Bubbi
on Monday, July 13, 2009

Dear Bubbi,

I'm only 16 and I think I've met the guy I want to be with forever. My parents are giving me a hard time and telling me that at my age, I'm to young to know what I want. I find that really hypocritical since they were high school sweethearts and married at 19. I could use some intervention.

~Old Enough To Be In Love

Dear Old Enough To Be In Love,

First of all, Mazel Tov (congratulations) to your parents for their long term marriage. They're a success story in this day and age! I'm thinking that since they got married so young, their concerns might be based on personal experience. Have you ever talked to them about what life was like as teenage newlyweds? I think the best thing you can do is keep the communication going and talk with each other not at each other! I believe your parents have a genuine interest in helping you make the right choices!

Dear Bubbi,

I feel like my mind has been in a fog for the past few weeks. I can't stay focused on my work and I find myself avoiding people whenever possible. I know what it's from...I broke off a six year relationship because it was going nowhere. My rational side says I made an intelligent decision but my emotional side is another story. I hate people seeing me like this! Please don't suggest therapy. I can barely afford the rent now that I'm paying it by myself.

~Trying To Move On

Dear Trying To Move On

These are the times that we need people in our lives though our first instinct is to "nest" with a pint of cookie dough ice cream and a warm blanket. I'm sure you've been there for your family and friends when they've gone through a big change in their lives so why not reach out to them for hugs and some meaningful conversation (Even if you do all the talking and they're just sympathetic listeners). Realistically, a few weeks is not a long time to get over a relationship that lasted 6 years. Allow yourself time to heal and don't feel you owe anyone an apology for your mind being in a nep'l (fog) or for showing your "emotional" side.

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